Love…

Love has lots of different meanings and can take on so many forms throughout your life.  My hope is that everyone feels love in some way and is never lonely.

While reality tells me that’s not true for everyone, each of us can do our part by showing love to others.  Sometimes it’s really tough and sometimes it’s not reciprocated, but you can never go wrong by continued kindness and love.

Divorce is such a strange event in life.  When you are married and loving someone for a long time and then you are just supposed to stop.  It can become a strange feeling.  Divorce is necessary in some cases and you can have lots of bad behavior on both sides due to hurt feelings, but there shouldn’t be any denying of the fact that you still care.  New relationships evolve and people move on.  The love should continue unless it was never there.  When children are involved, it’s even harder.  We protect our children from the ugly of the world and through divorce, we bring it right into their homes.  

As a mother of children from our broken home, I have a few thoughts for today:

  1. You can love people in lots of different ways
  2. Love has no place for pride
  3. Love doesn’t always have to be earned or reciprocated
  4. Love in your life can improve your health
  5. Loving yourself is a trait many people do not have and it is needed.
  6. Showing love to others is free
  7. Knowing you are loved unconditionally is one of the best feelings in the world.
  8. Love is shown, not just spoken 
  9. Love is powerful
  10. Love is selfless

Show someone love today – the rewards for you are endless and you might just change their life for the better.  If I have done anything right in my life, it’s when I’ve given my heart to others and taught our daughters to do the same.

Independence…

Independence can mean a lot of things to a lot of people. 

First, I am grateful for the men and women who serve this great country of ours. Our Freedoms come from your sacrifices and saying “thank you” just isn’t enough. I will love and support you any way I can and uphold your values just as you protect mine.  We would not be where we are today without you!  We appreciate all you are and all you do!

Second, I am grateful for the intellect and ability to have a successful career. Women have come a long way over the past century and I am proud to be in a company that shows no discretion when it comes to support and promoting those that deserve it.  I love doing what I love to do for a company and superiors that love me back.

Third, I am grateful to have my personal independence over the past couple of years.  I have overcome obstacles and changed my perspective to welcome positivity, unconditional love and complete support. I am no longer bound by someone else’s disease and unhappiness. I no longer have to plan my day around someone else’s mood or reaction to a substance.  I no longer have to stay up at night worried that someone is making bad choices and could hurt themselves or others.  I no longer have to attend therapy to figure out what I need to change.  I no longer have to worry about my safety.  

Last, but not least, I am grateful to have found someone that truly appreciates all that I am.  I don’t have to try to party so he likes me, I don’t have to try to “be cool” with things I’m not comfortable with and I can just be myself.  He doesn’t wonder when he’s going to get “his time.”  He is patient and kind and he understands. He sees my huge heart and has one for me in return.  He adores everything about me. He is honest and trustworthy and doesn’t want to change me in any way.  This is a freedom from concern and worry I’ve never experienced.  How awesome to feel you are enough.  How amazing to know that someone will put me second while I do the same (our babies come first).  He is an amazing example of a man for my girls.  He loves how I love them and he knows they are my world.  He can make me laugh all the time… that deep belly laugh that hurts and that is the most fun!!

I have so much to be grateful for this Independence Day.  I will reflect on the past growth and triumphs and recognize my independence and what it means to me.  Let me know what Independence means to you…