Definition of grace. 1a : unmerited divine assistance given humans for their regeneration or sanctificationb : a virtue coming from Godc : a state of sanctification enjoyed through divine assistance.
Grace – it’s simply undeserved favor shown to others. They don’t have to do anything or be anything to receive it and most importantly, they don’t always reciprocate. But the gift you receive from showing others grace is most rewarding.
When you’re in a relationship with an addict/alcoholic, you are living a life of grace and it’s the wanting reciprocal behavior that leads to disappointment day in and day out. There are times when you realize it and you decide enough is enough and you deserve more, but then a promise is made or a small gesture is done leading you to believe changes are coming. I cannot describe the excitement this brings, the feeling that all you worked for is finally going to pay off – your relationship is finally going to be 2-sided and then, even bigger disappointment when there is no follow through.
Remember grace daily and know that it doesn’t mean you have to live with the disappointment, but you have to rise above it. Addiction/alcoholism is usually a family trait, so more often than not, you are dealing with multiple disappointments from multiple family members. Change your thoughts and actions and stop trying to change theirs.
Some people will never change. Some people will never understand or appreciate grace, but you have the power to make sure your behavior cannot be viewed as anything but favor. You will fail at times – nobody is perfect, but thoughts of grace and remembering what it means “undeserved favor” will get you through. It is a gift. Have you shown Grace today??