Over the past few weeks I have asked myself this question over and over…
As you can tell by this blog, I am a giver. I love helping others and I will give and give even when I get nothing in return. BUT… this question keeps popping in my head when times get tough and we have seen our fair share of tough lately.
My husband and I put our kids first always…
We live in separate homes, in separate cities in order for our girls to remain in their school districts with less life disruption due to our adult choices – while their other parents choose to live wherever they like.
We schedule our work and date nights accordingly so the majority of our attention can be with and on the girls when they are with us – their other parents do not.
We have rules and expectations for school, behavior, treating others with respect and decency for anyone they come into contact with – including their other parents. While their other parents negate every rule we have and allow inappropriate behavior, mistreatment of others on top of influencing and providing drugs and/or alcohol.
We accommodate schedules with no reluctance when there is a need while fighting to maintain composure when the same is NEVER returned.
We consistently pay to support our kids in many areas and actually get threats when something is not “fair” if paid by the other parents. We keep track of everything and that is necessary under our circumstances.
We try to avoid drama when other parents create it unnecessarily and get the children involved.
When pondering all the things we do and don’t do, I find I’ve answered my own question… we ARE winning and good people do get the BEST in the end.
Our children all see exactly who we are and what we do (even our guardian angel in heaven). They are teens and pre-teens and we won’t get it right all the time (maybe only a portion of the time), but they know we’re doing our best and putting them first.
Our exes are angry and have every right to be – they both had “givers” that gave up on them. They are self-absorbed, dishonest people with no character and deserve the lives they have made for themselves. We have won BIG finding each other because we both give whole-heartedly and we are fully transparent. We are true to ourselves and each other and there is no bigger compliment than support and consistent love over all. We make each other better and we will be the consistent source in creating “givers” out of our girls regardless of their influences. We know it could be easier, but these are the cards we were dealt and it only matters how you play them.
We are grateful for the storms because they draw us closer to each other, closer to God and help us see the real picture. I hope you can see where you’re winning when trials come your way. Choose character over the chaos and you will find…Good people DO WIN every single day!