I find myself in a different season these days. My focus has shifted more to myself and I’m grateful for that. The girls are good, there have been positive changes at their dad’s house and they are doing well. My step-daughter remains lost, but I keep her in my prayers that God will guide her back to a happy place and self confidence to do more with her life soon and keep her safe. My husband and I just celebrated 3 years and I am so grateful for his love, support, hard-work, thoughtfulness and loyalty.
There are some areas that I have struggled recently and I’m reminded that no matter how hard we try and no matter our intent, some things just don’t work out. It’s funny that sometimes you keep repeating behaviors because you want a relationship to work – You lower expectations and forget boundaries and you find yourself being completely disrespected once again.
What’s great about growth is that you learn these ref flags much quicker and you get to a point where you refuse to be disrespected. Whether this is a family member, associate, friend or partner, the outcome is the same. You CANNOT force someone to respect you, but you CAN refuse to be disrespected.
There are lots of things that go into someone disrespecting you, but I have found, in most situations, it is a reflection of their insecurities and there’s nothing you can do about that regardless of how much you care or want the relationship to be more mutual.
In some cases, being cordial will get you through. In other cases, simply walking away might be necessary. Your happiness and self-care are extremely important and if it doesn’t serve you, it doesn’t deserve you. Love yourself today and remember those boundaries you have in place.